When you did what you can to reach your goal and still nothing changed it is not a reason to give up or lose motivation. Only thing you have to do is to change point of view and go forward.
Try to realize that you did more than you would expect before it all started. You are better person now and this will stay with you forever. Instead of giving up try to bite it from the other side. Create new plan, new mission and give yourself to it again with full passion and love. Again sacrifice hundred nights to build it from scratch. You should do it all different than before just for one reason:
Never let yourself to get caught up in a schema that will make you a slave of hope for the rest of your life.
In next 20 years you might try the same thing every day but the truth is you will end up with nothing more than frustration. Try to release your thinking, free your mind to create new things. Schemas are for limited people and you know what, every profesional person is limited somehow if he or she is not able to change anything, to improve or create new.
So everytime you blame yourself for not getting to the top or not being the best, remember that you already crossed the line of your abilities, by doing differently what others do the same. You don't have to do like everybody else just to look like they looked when they made it.
Stick to your freedom, not to your limited skills or possibilities. Learn more and do more but don't be blind for what you already achieved. That is the essence of life progress and everyday happiness...
If you feel you are perfect you must be an idiot or your ego is just a little bit bigger than Universe, anyways it's not your fault. Don't blame yourself for being such a great person it's just impossible for you to make a mistake... and gain any progress too right?
Well fortunately most people are different than that maybe they are not THAT special but still special in their own real way. What makes us humans, is that we all make mistakes. We learn how to do better and better by stumbling everyday. We don't born with knowledge and wisdom as IQ doesn't matter if you ain't scientist. Nobody is perfect even you think they are. Image of your own self in social media is just an image. You are the only person who knows that behind that perfect body, perfect style and perfect friends there is someone who is sometimes scared, uncertain, lonely and unhappy too because not all we do succeeds.
Mistakes are good and being brave enough to admit that you fucked up something is an art of truth and a proof of wisdom (not IQ as even a genius can be a dumb egocentic).
A path to mastery is always difficult and long, a faultless process is an absurd. Do not afraid to be wrong sometimes, those who act perfect don't know what freedom is. They are lost in their dream image of themselves while true life is running away.
Be as good as you can by giving one hundred percent every time you do something and always stay real. If life is your school, mistakes are your most valuable lessons...
If all three answers are yes, you are ready to start your journey...
Ok but before everything else, do you even know what is your biggest dream? We are not talking about cars, clothes or cribs, ok wealth can be a goal but it may not satisfy you at all, what then will you do to find complete happiness. Do you know how to find your purpose? It is not easy and not a short process for sure, it may take a year or couple of years or even a lifetime sometimes but it is definitely worth it. Once discovered you will never suffer on lack of motivation, you become motivation yourself as everything you do will be made with passion and full focus.
How to find your purpose, is there any instruction for it? There are ways and methods which can help you to understand own behaviors and actions but there is no one certain instruction. People who found it, can tell their stories and you can try to relate to it but your story will always be different, that you can be sure.
Again, same question: How? Take a piece of paper and a pen, draw two columns, one with a header What am I good at? The other one with header What am I passionate about (what do I like)? Think about it well, don't hurry, write everything that comes to your mind. Come back to it the next day and two days later and when you finish writing, try to connect things from the left column to things in the right column. Those few sets of things are your starting points. Choose one and try to master it, if you feel that's not it, try the second one from your list an then the next one... These sets can relate to each other by creating full picture of your real potential. When you feel passion and fear go for it and never stop, no matter what.
From now on all you need is a good plan, constant focus and a lot of persistence. Is it that simple? Yes but not easy, simplicity is what it is all about not to loose your main purpose. Be ready for crisis and struggle. It never was and never will be easy. I see it every single day. What makes things happen is hard work and sacrifice. A belief that you are right and that it's gonna happen one day, never let bad opinions to blur your vision.
Stay awake, focus and stick to the plan. Now you know how.
Our mind is our greatest enemy. We visualize things which won't ever happen and we blame ourselves for past actions which no longer exist in present. Some people can't handle their lifes because they are absolutely under control of their own mind. They become thoughts and concerns as all they do is... thinking.
They think so much about past or future that they forget about NOW. It is the reality which thanks to our mind, place us in those roles and situations without perspectives where we schematically find ourselves constantly unhappy because of what we don't yet have or what we haven't done. Logically thinking it is bullshit, but we do it every day, even on the highest levels of financial hierarchy we can't get enough. Money won't solve problems but people still believe that rich and famous are the happiest human beings on this planet. Happiness is not a goal in life, it is a state of mind in which one can find himself by realizing that past and future doesn't really exist. Acceptance of mind as a tool, not identity, and "now" as only reality requires imagination. If you once understand it there will be no limits, schemas, roles, stereotypes, everything is possible when you know you are not your mind's slave. Reality becomes so rich and beautiful through every step you take.
We stick what we think but we think when we want, not when we have to. Mind is a tool, turn it off sometimes to enjoy world around you, NOW...
Stock cars are boring, everybody knows that. For people who treat them just like a way of transportation without any passion these are fine, but still boring. For some enthusiasts, cars are like art or sometimes a time machines which can take you back to highschool or even to your childhood.
But still stock cars are boring, that is why we modify them. We change everything from suspension, wheels, brakes, body, interior straight to the engine, heart and brain of the machine. Engines are getting power and toque with fast reaction to gas and great sound from it's exhaust. This is great but non of your car mods will have sense if you have no fuel. Our brain is very similar to car's engine, it runs our lives forward. Every new experience is a modification which simply increase its durability. When you gain knowledge you make your head engine more powerful and efficient. We modify our lives too, sometimes for good sometimes for worse, but to be motivated enough to progress every day and never give up, you have to have a dream, possible to achieve. Not only a dream actually but most of all a plan how to get it. You have to know what to do and what to deny to save precious time for your family, friends and your big dream.
This detailed plan of all small steps on your way to freedom is a gps you can trust. To run your engine and keep it hot you need fuel. Don't go to the gas stadion Find your passion in you, it will keep your brain conscious and focused on priorities just like high octane petrol for your modified car.
Stock cars are boring, but average people are hopeless. Stick to your dreams and passions, feed your brain and go wherever you want, life is too short to regret anything...
All humans have a kind of defect in their nature which is one of the most annoying disadvantages in the ecosystem. This is also the most amazing and developing skill from all living creatures. We sometimes love it but most of us hate it really.
You probably wonder what kind of superpower push mankind to develop and in the same time makes us cursed for centuries. It is simply one thing... we get bored easily. We can't do same things every day just like we can't wear same clothes and eat same meals for our whole lives. We are unruly children in the toy shop. This unique feature drives us to search new ways to do things and new ways to create things. We are pushed through our lives by anxiety of not trying everything around, which is in truth impossible to do. Life is too short and we know that but still we are searching for more.
Some changes are small and they don't mean nothing, like new clothes or new smartphone in your hand but the big ideas can change your whole life... for those, you need to have a vision.
Watch out for being too humble to what you've already achieved. Don't let nobody and nothing to take control over you. Happy life is understanding of different situations, behaviors and ability to keep everything balanced in your own world. Building environment by gathering the right people over you is the best way for dreams come true. Sometimes days are grey and inexpressive but don't get depressed too easy, after the rain the sun comes out. Even the most difficult moments bring experience and knowledge to your life. Patience is what keeps every dreamer alive. You have to survive the worst times just like you appreciate the good ones. We don't choose place where we born and we don't choose childhood but we can choose life and happiness instead of hopeless misery.
Every day is different, even you feel like nothing changes, the world is not the same tomorrow. Take a part in it, get up, stand up, tell them what you believe, stop being everyone else. Create your own life just like you always wanted. But, when finally you enthusiastically decide to do it, remember that it won't be easy, it never was.
Be ready for the good and for the bad times, be ready to face all days...
