When you did what you can to reach your goal and still nothing changed it is not a reason to give up or lose motivation. Only thing you have to do is to change point of view and go forward.
Try to realize that you did more than you would expect before it all started. You are better person now and this will stay with you forever. Instead of giving up try to bite it from the other side. Create new plan, new mission and give yourself to it again with full passion and love. Again sacrifice hundred nights to build it from scratch. You should do it all different than before just for one reason:
Never let yourself to get caught up in a schema that will make you a slave of hope for the rest of your life.
In next 20 years you might try the same thing every day but the truth is you will end up with nothing more than frustration. Try to release your thinking, free your mind to create new things. Schemas are for limited people and you know what, every profesional person is limited somehow if he or she is not able to change anything, to improve or create new.
So everytime you blame yourself for not getting to the top or not being the best, remember that you already crossed the line of your abilities, by doing differently what others do the same. You don't have to do like everybody else just to look like they looked when they made it.
Stick to your freedom, not to your limited skills or possibilities. Learn more and do more but don't be blind for what you already achieved. That is the essence of life progress and everyday happiness...
If you feel you are perfect you must be an idiot or your ego is just a little bit bigger than Universe, anyways it's not your fault. Don't blame yourself for being such a great person it's just impossible for you to make a mistake... and gain any progress too right?
Well fortunately most people are different than that maybe they are not THAT special but still special in their own real way. What makes us humans, is that we all make mistakes. We learn how to do better and better by stumbling everyday. We don't born with knowledge and wisdom as IQ doesn't matter if you ain't scientist. Nobody is perfect even you think they are. Image of your own self in social media is just an image. You are the only person who knows that behind that perfect body, perfect style and perfect friends there is someone who is sometimes scared, uncertain, lonely and unhappy too because not all we do succeeds.
Mistakes are good and being brave enough to admit that you fucked up something is an art of truth and a proof of wisdom (not IQ as even a genius can be a dumb egocentic).
A path to mastery is always difficult and long, a faultless process is an absurd. Do not afraid to be wrong sometimes, those who act perfect don't know what freedom is. They are lost in their dream image of themselves while true life is running away.
Be as good as you can by giving one hundred percent every time you do something and always stay real. If life is your school, mistakes are your most valuable lessons...
If all three answers are yes, you are ready to start your journey...
Ok but before everything else, do you even know what is your biggest dream? We are not talking about cars, clothes or cribs, ok wealth can be a goal but it may not satisfy you at all, what then will you do to find complete happiness. Do you know how to find your purpose? It is not easy and not a short process for sure, it may take a year or couple of years or even a lifetime sometimes but it is definitely worth it. Once discovered you will never suffer on lack of motivation, you become motivation yourself as everything you do will be made with passion and full focus.
How to find your purpose, is there any instruction for it? There are ways and methods which can help you to understand own behaviors and actions but there is no one certain instruction. People who found it, can tell their stories and you can try to relate to it but your story will always be different, that you can be sure.
Again, same question: How? Take a piece of paper and a pen, draw two columns, one with a header What am I good at? The other one with header What am I passionate about (what do I like)? Think about it well, don't hurry, write everything that comes to your mind. Come back to it the next day and two days later and when you finish writing, try to connect things from the left column to things in the right column. Those few sets of things are your starting points. Choose one and try to master it, if you feel that's not it, try the second one from your list an then the next one... These sets can relate to each other by creating full picture of your real potential. When you feel passion and fear go for it and never stop, no matter what.
From now on all you need is a good plan, constant focus and a lot of persistence. Is it that simple? Yes but not easy, simplicity is what it is all about not to loose your main purpose. Be ready for crisis and struggle. It never was and never will be easy. I see it every single day. What makes things happen is hard work and sacrifice. A belief that you are right and that it's gonna happen one day, never let bad opinions to blur your vision.
Stay awake, focus and stick to the plan. Now you know how.
